Finally! I’m writing down (yes, I chose this word because I need to dig up my memory.. it’s 3-weeks late by the way.. haha) this last chapter of Musa’s monthly development. All of previous-months notes is available on my IG / FB. We only missed his 1-month-old note, but we still did posting a picture of the return of Papa’s lunch-box to celebrate. Mama was off from the kitchen during the first month and Papa sometimes prepared his own bento 😀
It’s hard to realize that your baby is not a baby anymore by this time. Dilemma comes more intense such as “I still wanna have a baby, but I don’t wanna be too busy again” and in another way “I wanna him grows up quickly, so we can do many more things together”. Now I know why human keeps having more children even though it makes him / her a worrysome all the time. Hahaha..
Okay, let’s start to review.
Road to be a screen-free toddler
Musa has been set to be screen-free since 10 months and one last month (11 to 12 months) it was quite be successful. Thanks to little hafidz Musa and Mrs. Fauziah for reminding us. Stories of those two persons get about to shock me. I read the bad effect of those “blink-blink” display to baby’s brain beforehand, but sadly I couldn’t do more than cut the duration of his watch. Most of the time, we turned on screen to distract him from crying or from bothering our works. Looked like quote “Housework can wait, but your baby can’t” went wrong. Hahaha.
Changing this habit was surprisingly very easy because Musa can’t ask to watch video yet :D. I was thinking that I could sort the videos in a playlist (some songs have been removed) that make screen-time a little bit useful, but Musa is only interested to certain videos of nursery rhymes. When sister Maryam shows up in the screen reciting Quran verses, he runs away. LOL. Anyway, in the screen time, I never let him stoned for so long without interaction. Between 9 to 10 months, he has been able to respond (in his language) such as “hmm.. hmm..” if I invite him to discuss the content of the video, so I think face-to-face communication still play the more important role compared to the screen itself. No matter what we talk about, baby needs to listen to our voice beyond everything, especially the voices with parentese style.
Well, that’s my choice to limit screen for my baby. Nobody can make sure how long this screen-free mission will survive. We still make exception sometimes, like when I needed to cut his hair and made him stayed calm. The videos could save us from ‘disaster’ :)) Screen isn’t always bad. I just want to prevent Musa for getting addicted. I proudly admit that I build vocabulary of kids’ words from nursery videos and teach good habits in daily life with the songs. Thanks for YouTube!
Here is a good guide to use screen wisely. Keep it to myself too!
As a consequence of taking baby away from the screen, since a couple of months ago I have to let baby explore everything he wants to grab and accept the new condition of our home, which is more like a shipwreck. My Mom, every time we have video call via Skype, always wonders why it is so messy and I keep saying that I HAVE cleaned it recently. LOL. She (and most middle-to-high income Indonesian families) has assistant for house works almost all the time so she’s probably unable to believe how it’s failed to be managed. #crossmyfingers
Angry baby: I want this and that!
It’s amused to see your baby enforces his desires as this early age. A big change this month is Musa can be angry if we disallow him to do something. The anger expression, except crying, is just similar to us the adults: getting frowned, stomping feet, yelling.. sometimes by running away too. Hahaha. Believe me, as far as I remember, he never showed such emotion beforehand. He could be upset and cry, but not get angry. I’m more and more amazed how Lord teaches His creatures physically and mentally. Feel like only a year ago when he could just cry!!!
My parents often tell me how attached I was to my Mom’s one-piece dress (or Indonesian calls it “daster” :D) when I was young. The dress was made from a soft and cool material, so perhaps it’s super comfy to snuggle with. They said I couldn’t sleep if it’s not in my hand, whereas another dress, even with similar material, wouldn’t work to soothe me! My Mom had to wash and dry it as soon as possible before my bed time. She simply couldn’t wear it anymore. LOL.
Your baby may become attached to a special blanket, stuffed animal, or toy. (Some babies already have a “lovey” at this age, but many don’t. And it’s still too early for your baby to sleep with one.) As your child grows, bonding with a favorite item may help her sleep well and weather stressful experiences like a doctor’s visit or a trip away.
Perfectly clicked to what Baby Center weekly review said above, now I see my reflection on Musa. He began to have his favorite object: his blue blanket. He loves to sleep by clutching tightly the blanket and drags it all over the home when he is awake. Unfortunately, it hasn’t helped him to sleep better than before. In other words, our sleep training is getting no result yet until now and we’re giving up for many times if he cries loudly 😦 He still nurses about 3-4 hours per day and 2-3 times in the night between sleep.
Eating less, except for fruits
Like his 10th and 11th month, in this month he’s still eating less for meals, but hardly stopped in ‘snacking’ fruits. He can eat a half pint of blueberries or two whole oranges if I allow it. Mama is still struggling to teach Musa manner: to not spit, to not throw foods, to not put foods in the floor, to not eat something yucky, and many more. A good news is he never shut his mouth completely for any food we offer (Indonesian people term it as “GTM / Gerakan Tutup Mulut” >> I don’t think Musa had this period already). He’s always willing to try and curious to what we eat. Another good news that seems bad (because it makes mess!) maybe his self-will to use spoon and fork. I asked some friends whose self-feeding child like Musa and I feel more relieved to hear them experienced this stage too. Now, when I’m finishing this post, Musa gets finer and finer in scooping his food from the plate or bowl. Such a nice tradeoff, huh? I also take easier on the change of Musa’s eating habit when I read this:
A toddler’s appetite
It is normal for a toddler to eat less after his first birthday. He is not growing as fast as he did when he was a baby. (Source: Nutrition Matter >> go to their website for wonderful leaflets)
His pediatrician on his first year check up didn’t give negative response as well upon his growth chart and my worries. She told me to keep offering him with foods I eat and vitamin D if I plan to continue breastfeeding (breastmilk contains not enough vitamin D).
I totally doubted it could happen when my sister-in-law said that Musa might be running on his first birthday. At that time, I’d just sent her a video of Musa’s walking in 10 month old, which was his second week since he really walked for the first time. However, my mouth was locked when some days before he’s turning one, he literally run. I tried to bring him outside to see if he acts different because he was used to scared of walking on shoes, but I didn’t have such view anymore. He truly a walker and a runner by 12 months. Allah is Great! Don’t ask me how far he can walk now. He even walks more than us and sometimes refuses to be held. Alhamdulillah.
Well, I think that’s all review I’d like to spell out and please take a look on the cute infographic I made below for summary 🙂 Too many to-do-list, mostly writings, for this milestone that I can’t cross off yet :sad:. With an extremely active toddler, facing my laptop is such a gift that needs much effort to achieve. I always wish I could hire a voluntary secretary who can write my thoughts and translate my posts into Bahasa Indonesia. Hahaha.
Last but not least, let me shout: Welcome toddler fun!
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