Being A Mother Actually Be Like This

Today is my third Mother’s Day (based on US/Japan calendar, in Indonesia: December 22). Since my only kid currently was born in Michigan, I follow the US version. Hehe. I had my first Mother’s Day at the third day people began recognizing me as “Mom”. The medical staffs who helped me giving birth in the hospital used that term. It was so magical for me!!! I was always a girl who had no interest to kids beforehand, even, a kind of person who preferred to stay away from those noisy, annoying, silly little creatures… ignoring all their cuteness and innocence. If my little sister loves to offer herself as a caregiver for our nephews or nieces in the family gathering, not so with me. If some friends of mine, in my perspective, know very well how to soothe a crying baby, to cope with toddler’s tantrum, or to deal with stubborn teenager when we’re on duty in the kids corner (yeah! although I’m not a kids lover still I was involved in this division for several events.. huh), I had no idea how to do it. If most of my female relatives of the same age is able to guess how old a kid is, I just didn’t get the difference between 1-year kid and 2-years kid. Bahaha 😆

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Musa’s Weaning Journey

Day 3 fully weaning #musaromas has ended and unbelievable he neither forced me to give milk nor cried at all today!!! Never in our days before he turned two years I had more than 24-hours without breastfeeding him unless (if any) he acted like crazy only for getting a little drops of breastmilk. Now am struggling to overcome the engorgement while hoping that the supply would decrease soon. #weaningwithlove (curcolan di bawah.. 😬)


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Ramadan Story: Late Night Prayer in Masjid with Toddler

Judulnya sih bahasa bule, tapi isinya kali ini pakai Bahasa kok. Haha…

Sabtu pertama di bulan Ramadan ini saya kebetulan baca tulisan anaknya bu Elly Risman, mbak Sarra Risman, tentang membawa anak ke masjid (baca di bawah), lalu di sore harinya kami berkesempatan merasakan langsung pengalaman itu dengan seorang balita yang baru genap berusia 13 bulan tiga hari sebelumnya dan sudah bisa jalan sejak 10 bulan (ini penting ditulis agar terbayang seberapa heboh gerakannya sekarang.. wkwk :P). Berhubung kerepotannya sungguh tak disangka sebelumnya dan jadi kepikiran beberapa hal, saya putuskan perlu menuliskannya di sini demi memberi gambaran tentang “begini lho bawa anak (kecil) ke masjid itu” versi keluarga kecil #ea5512. Kami ajak Musa ke masjid dengan tidak bermaksud muluk-muluk semacam menanamkan kecintaan pada rumah Allahi sejak dini sih, tapi karena memang tidak ada yang menjaganya di rumah. Hihi.

Intermezzo dulu ya..

Sejak memasuki bulan Ramadan, kami sudah niatkan untuk berbuka puasa di masjid setiap weekend dan memang rata-rata masjid hanya mengadakan community dinner atau fundraising iftar di hari-hari itu. Selama Ramadan saya sebagai ibu rempong dengan balita baru yang tak bisa diprediksi jam tidurnya, tidak berharap akan bisa tarawih berjamaah di masjid, apalagi jam tarawih tahun ini sudah tidak sehat untuk anak-anak. Jam 12 malam kira-kira baru beres setengahnya.. bisa sahur sekalian tuh kalo ikut yang 23 rakaat :mrgreen:. Namun, di keluarga kami dari sononya biasa jalanin yang 11 rakaat aja (8 rakaat tarawih + 3 rakaat witir). Di hari-hari kerja, sementara saya salat sendiri di rumah, Aisar alhamdulillah masih bisa ikut sampai delapan rakaat tiap malamnya di masjid terdekat dari rumah (kurleb 7-8 menit naik mobil.. alhamdulillah) dengan syarat harus tidur dulu sepulang kantor sampai waktu berbuka puasa (sekitar jam 7-9 malam). Hehe. Di pagi hari, setelah sahur, doi juga alhamdulillah masih bisa ikutan jamaah Subuh di masjid, terus tidur lagi sampai mau berangkat ke kantor.

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The 12 Months Review

Finally! I’m writing down (yes, I chose this word because I need to dig up my memory.. it’s 3-weeks late by the way.. haha) this last chapter of Musa’s monthly development. All of previous-months notes is available on my IG / FB. We only missed his 1-month-old note, but we still did posting a picture of the return of Papa’s lunch-box to celebrate. Mama was off from the kitchen during the first month and Papa sometimes prepared his own bento 😀

It’s hard to realize that your baby is not a baby anymore by this time. Dilemma comes more intense such as “I still wanna have a baby, but I don’t wanna be too busy again” and in another way “I wanna him grows up quickly, so we can do many more things together”. Now I know why human keeps having more children even though it makes him / her a worrysome all the time. Hahaha..

Okay, let’s start to review.

Road to be a screen-free toddler

Musa has been set to be screen-free since 10 months and one last month (11 to 12 months) it was quite be successful. Thanks to little hafidz Musa and Mrs. Fauziah for reminding us. Stories of those two persons get about to shock me. I read the bad effect of those “blink-blink” display to baby’s brain beforehand, but sadly I couldn’t do more than cut the duration of his watch. Most of the time, we turned on screen to distract him from crying or from bothering our works. Looked like quote “Housework can wait, but your baby can’t” went wrong. Hahaha.

That's okay to be friends with screen.. as long as it's under your control, baby. Uh yeahhh! :))

That’s okay to be friends with screen.. as long as it’s under your control, baby. Uh yeahhh! :))

Changing this habit was surprisingly very easy because Musa can’t ask to watch video yet :D. I was thinking that I could sort the videos in a playlist (some songs have been removed) that make screen-time a little bit useful, but Musa is only interested to certain videos of nursery rhymes. When sister Maryam shows up in the screen reciting Quran verses, he runs away. LOL. Anyway, in the screen time, I never let him stoned for so long without interaction. Between 9 to 10 months, he has been able to respond (in his language) such as “hmm.. hmm..” if I invite him to discuss the content of  the video, so I think face-to-face communication still play the more important role compared to the screen itself. No matter what we talk about, baby needs to listen to our voice beyond everything, especially the voices with parentese style.

Well, that’s my choice to limit screen for my baby. Nobody can make sure how long this screen-free mission will survive. We still make exception sometimes, like when I needed to cut his hair and made him stayed calm. The videos could save us from ‘disaster’ :)) Screen isn’t always bad. I just want to prevent Musa for getting addicted. I proudly admit that I build vocabulary of kids’ words from nursery videos and teach good habits in daily life with the songs. Thanks for YouTube!

Here is a good guide to use screen wisely. Keep it to myself too!

5 Myths About Young Children and Screen Media Infographic (Source: Zero to Three)

5 Myths About Young Children and Screen Media Infographic (Source: Zero to Three)

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