800 Days


▶️ Today I was reminded by the #childrearing email service of our vicinity that #musaromas turned 800 days this Sunday (7/16). Wow! Apparently I have to make a post to share some thoughts on my mind recently.. (jump to ➡️) ⏭ Pertama, perkara membandingkan. Tidak seperti masa bayi yang perkembangannya cenderung terprediksi timing-nya dan beda tipis antara satu bayi dengan lainnya, di usia-usia segini makin kerasa kalo tiap anak beda-beda kemajuannya di tiap aspek. Ada yang duluan ngomongnya, ada yang duluan “matengnya” (ex: bisa dibilangin), dll. Sangat rawan bagi ortu untuk banding-bandingin anaknya sendiri dengan anak orang lain.. dan saya akuin salah satu tema curhatan saya ke suami ya tentang perbandingan itu (“si anu udah bisa gini, kok M belum ya?”, “anaknya si itu pintar gituan lho, kapan ya M bisa?”, dan sebangsanya, begitu pun sebaliknya kalo M ‘dialem’ alias dapat pujian dari orang lain, dibanggain sambil ambil contoh anak lain sebayanya). Heuheuheu.. •

⏭ Merasa bersalah pasti iya abis itu, padahal mungkin aja emang wajar.. karena ternyata saya dapat info begini dari @babycenter minggu ini: ➡️ No Comparison
It’s tempting to compare your preschooler with his playmates, but it’s not constructive. At this age, kids start developing in wildly different ways. Some focus fiercely on language or motor skills for a time while other skills stagnate. And new skills are acquired at a whole range of “normal” rates. Trust your gut: Does your child seem okay to you? Whenever you have any doubt, don’t hesitate to mention it to his doctor. ⏭ dan kalo ngecek apa yang harusnya bisa dilakukan seorang anak #2yearsold, rasanya nggak ada yang perlu saya khawatirkan. •

Kedua, di sisi lain, saya pun merasa kebahagiaan, ketenangan, kebanggaan, kegemesan kalo M bisa skill baru. Usia balita itu ketrampilan baru tampak kecil-kecil tapi muncul satu demi satunya cepat.. jadi saking banyaknya nggak spesial lagi kaya ketika masih bayi. Ini menguji kami sebagai orang tua untuk kasih perhatian sedekat mungkin ke anak selagi bisa agar kita tidak terlewat jadi cheerleader saat pencapaian.

Ketika momen itu datang, hilang semua rasa khawatir atau envy sama anak orang lain yang udah bisa ini itu, padahal kita cuma tahu dari luarnya aja, bisa jadi ortu anak yang kita iriin itu juga punya kekhawatiran dalam bentuk beda.. rumput tetangga selalu lebih hijau kan?

➡️ Instead of comparing our kid to the others’ kid, cheer every awesome moment our kid made! Accidentally last week I wrote a rant with the last quite was matched to this situation last week about my son…… ❤️ Making lots of phrases!!! (more <something>, buy , play , let’s go, etc.) Alhamdulillah, way to go to make more sentences (so far he only says “Bye-bye, something” and “I want more”). Realizing that he’s not an advanced talker since he was 1.5 years sometimes worries me, but at the other sides, I’ve also made sure based on developmental guides that he’s actually not in speech delay. I just need to believe and keep patient.. and I feel that the most important thing is the way he communicates with others still progressed well. I also learned that the idiom “don’t compare yourself to others yet compare yourself to the person you were yesterday” should be applied in watching our kid. ❤️

Kebetulan yang lain, masih nyambung poin kedua, di email yang saya singgung di awal itu pun dijelaskan bahwa umur dua tahunan ini juga saat yang tepat untuk memberi tanggung jawab kecil ke anak agar percaya diri si anak meningkat. Misalnya, kalo doi berantakin cucian yang abis diangkat dari jemuran, dialihkan aja dengan minta doi untuk bantu melipat baju. Terus jangan lupa memuji kalo doi bisa mengeksekusi instruksi tertentu. ❤️ Fokus ke sikap semacam itu jauh lebih penting daripada cuma banding-bandingin 😜❤️ #selfreminder banget ini

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Musa’s Mealtime Look 1 Year Old

Musa’s mealtime look 1 year ++

Keukeuh pake sendok / garpu, mau balik piring, ngunyah kebanyakan (“molo-molo” orang Jawa bilang), buang-buang makanan adalah sebagian potret kekinian Musa saat makan.

It’s almost a month since my last photo for this album. If you see Musa’s meals pics before, you may think he’s an easy baby in eating. Now, Musa has been a toddler, entering period when he’s naturally to be a picky eater. Table foods with salt and sugar (yey, finally!) can’t make he eats more than his baby foods. He still prefers to eat plain fruits or veggies instead of yummy-crunchy-fascinating fried chicken a la KFC.

We have more challenges for sure, but we don’t want to bring down his self-regulate sense that has been built so far. We simply give up the foods to give to him when he doesn’t want to eat.

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The 12 Months Review

Finally! I’m writing down (yes, I chose this word because I need to dig up my memory.. it’s 3-weeks late by the way.. haha) this last chapter of Musa’s monthly development. All of previous-months notes is available on my IG / FB. We only missed his 1-month-old note, but we still did posting a picture of the return of Papa’s lunch-box to celebrate. Mama was off from the kitchen during the first month and Papa sometimes prepared his own bento 😀

It’s hard to realize that your baby is not a baby anymore by this time. Dilemma comes more intense such as “I still wanna have a baby, but I don’t wanna be too busy again” and in another way “I wanna him grows up quickly, so we can do many more things together”. Now I know why human keeps having more children even though it makes him / her a worrysome all the time. Hahaha..

Okay, let’s start to review.

Road to be a screen-free toddler

Musa has been set to be screen-free since 10 months and one last month (11 to 12 months) it was quite be successful. Thanks to little hafidz Musa and Mrs. Fauziah for reminding us. Stories of those two persons get about to shock me. I read the bad effect of those “blink-blink” display to baby’s brain beforehand, but sadly I couldn’t do more than cut the duration of his watch. Most of the time, we turned on screen to distract him from crying or from bothering our works. Looked like quote “Housework can wait, but your baby can’t” went wrong. Hahaha.

That's okay to be friends with screen.. as long as it's under your control, baby. Uh yeahhh! :))

That’s okay to be friends with screen.. as long as it’s under your control, baby. Uh yeahhh! :))

Changing this habit was surprisingly very easy because Musa can’t ask to watch video yet :D. I was thinking that I could sort the videos in a playlist (some songs have been removed) that make screen-time a little bit useful, but Musa is only interested to certain videos of nursery rhymes. When sister Maryam shows up in the screen reciting Quran verses, he runs away. LOL. Anyway, in the screen time, I never let him stoned for so long without interaction. Between 9 to 10 months, he has been able to respond (in his language) such as “hmm.. hmm..” if I invite him to discuss the content of  the video, so I think face-to-face communication still play the more important role compared to the screen itself. No matter what we talk about, baby needs to listen to our voice beyond everything, especially the voices with parentese style.

Well, that’s my choice to limit screen for my baby. Nobody can make sure how long this screen-free mission will survive. We still make exception sometimes, like when I needed to cut his hair and made him stayed calm. The videos could save us from ‘disaster’ :)) Screen isn’t always bad. I just want to prevent Musa for getting addicted. I proudly admit that I build vocabulary of kids’ words from nursery videos and teach good habits in daily life with the songs. Thanks for YouTube!

Here is a good guide to use screen wisely. Keep it to myself too!

5 Myths About Young Children and Screen Media Infographic (Source: Zero to Three)

5 Myths About Young Children and Screen Media Infographic (Source: Zero to Three)

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Flint Water Crisis: Blood Draw for Checking Lead


Musa had taken #blooddraw to check #leadcontamination in the #tapwater we drink. He drinks nursery water with fluoride added, but probably his pediatrician just wanted to make sure that he’s fine. Look at this happy face after a hand poke. He’s such a brave little guy. The lab staff needed to search for best venous twice in both hands, but she had no clue and asked me instead, “Did he drink?” she said we had to make him well hydrated, then called her senior, the senior said “Nothing greatest, but let’s try” and they forced to inject the needle, got no blood drawed at first and Musa had started crying, but finally they did it, brought about two tubs of bloods. #musaromas only cried mildly (like his cry everybody out there knows) then laughed immediately. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 #toddlerlife #1y6d #MLabs #UofMHospital #labtest #flintwatercrisis #handpoke

Musa hari ini diambil darahnya untuk mengecek kandungan timbal dari air minum (di sini air kran bisa diminum). Jadi ceritanya di daerah #Flint, #Michigan lagi ada kasus air tercemar timbal gitu karena kesalahan manajemen (pipanya udah jadul n karatan bikin logam berat larut dalam air.. Yaiks, kan?) yang mana hal ini bisa mengganggu kesehatan. Sebetulnya Musa minumnya dari air mineral khusus bayi, tapi dokternya meresepkan untuk #cekdarah mungkin untuk memastikan aja apakah dia aman. Agak susah cari pembuluh darah yang pas untuk disuntik tadi. Staf labnya bolak-balik meraba tangan kanan, kiri, kanan, kiri lagi, terus malah nanya apakah Musa udah minum cukup sebelumnya, sampai akhirnya dia manggil seniornya. Senior yang rambutnya udah putih semua ini juga sama nggak langsung dapet, katanya nggak ada yang paling oke, tapi coba aja deh. Diambillah dua tabung darah dan Musa cuma nangis bentar, nangis khas ala dia yang orang pada tahu nggak heboh, lalu ketawa-ketiwi :))

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[Update May 17]

We got the result of his blood draw. Thanks, Allah, everything is okay. We may continue to give him nursery water with fluoride (next time by storing in refrigerator as instruction in the label.. we were wrong all this time) and sometimes filtered tap water like what we do now.


Happy First Birthday, Musa!

#ea5512 One year ago today, without a hard and prolonged labor, you came to the world in the most beautiful way I could never ask more. If you only knew, Musa.. that I was very scary to die after delivering you, that I worried about losing chance to be a MOM of you, that I sometimes thought you would be my only child.. every time I felt, “oh, pregnant is really tough!”, and wanted to give up. However, your coming made all of my fears faded away and putting you first in my everyday life now is one thing I’ll never regret (and won’t take it for granted)!!! I have to say, “Thank you, Allah, for trusting me in taking care of him”, and yes, in the hands of lady who was disinterested in young kids, you are ‘unfortunately’ be entrusted 😀

If you deserve a better mom, please let me be that one. We have learned too many things together from zero through this first year. Why should we stop? It’s wonderful life ahead, dear baby, and your opportunities to create benefits for universe are unli mited. May you become a son who loves being closer and faithful to Allah whatever happens and we are united as family for ever up to jannah (heaven). Aamiin.

Happy first birthday, Musa! Happy mother’s day to me!

\P. S.: baby development, up and down of first year parenting, and what to expect will be written in different post.